10 tips to a happy pregnancy

Every woman wants to have a happy, healthy pregnancy. Start now to help ensure that yours will be the best it can be!
Prioritise during pregnancy
Examine what you need to do to help yourself and your growing baby. Do what you need to do, decide what else you can do and let the rest go.
Involve others in your pregnancy
When you include your partner, other family members and friends in your pregnancy, it helps them understand what you are going through so they can be more understanding and supportive.
Treat others with respect and love
You may be having a hard time, especially at the beginning of your pregnancy. You may have morning sickness. You may find adjusting to the rile of mum-to-be difficult. People will understand if you take the time to let them know how you feel. Show respect and love for their concern. Treat them with kindness and love, and they will respond in kind.
Create memories
It takes some planning, but it is definitely worth it. When you’re pregnant, it seems like it will go on forever. However, speaking from experience, we can tell you it passes very quickly and is soon a memory. Take steps to document the many changes that are occurring in your life right now. include your partner in all this. Have him or her jot down his or her feelings. Take his or her picture, too! You’ll be ale to look back and share the highs and lows together, and, in the years ahead, you and your kids will be glad you did.
Find more:
-Book a pregnancy photographer
-Start a pregnancy journal
-Start a blog
Relax when you can
Easing the stress in your life is very important now. Do things that help you relax and focus on what is important in your lives right now.
Find more:
How to exercise when pregnant and reduce stress
How to manage pregnancy anxiety
Best tips for dealing with stress during pregnancy
Enjoy this time of preparation
All too soon your pregnancy will be over and you’ll be a new mother, with all the responsibilities of being a mum and a partner! You may have other responsibilities, too, in your professional or personal life. This is a time to concentrate on your couple relationship and the many changes you will be experiencing in the near future.
Find more:
-Pregnancy and your relationship
-Feel comfortable about sex during pregnancy
-Coping with pregnancy tiredness
-Managing mood swings during pregnancy
-Organise a romantic babymoon
Focus on the positive
You may hear negative things from friends or family members, such as scary birth stories or sad tales. Ignore them. Most pregnancies work out great.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Your pregnancy is important to others, too. Friends and family will be pleased if you ask them to be involved.
Be informed
Kidspot provides all you need to enjoy your pregnancy from the first day you discover you are pregnant to the birth, and beyond, while Kidspot Social keeps you connected with other mums-to-be, new mums and old-hands.
Smile
You’re a part of a very special miracle that is happening to you and your partner so try to stay relaxed and enjoy the ride!
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Advice for new parents

What is your best advice for new parents?

 

When travelling, especially if staying with friends or relatives, try to stick with your routine. This may mean saying no and not joining in activities, always put your child’s sleep and rest first. This will mean a much more enjoyable trip. Mother of Rachel 14 months

Wash baby’s toys in a pillow case or bra bag on a gentle cycle, rather than hand washing everything. Mother of Brody 7 months.

When your baby has a drool rash use a little paw paw ointment or similar as a barrier cream.  This stops any irritation and it will clear up quickly. Mother of Selina 9 months

The maternal health nurse has lots of resources available many of which can be borrowed for short periods of time.  They have books and dvds on sleep, settling and lots of other baby topics.  This is often better than buying books only to find they don’t suit you. Also check out your library for good parenting resources. Mother of Jacob 10 months

Keep trying with breast feeding! It hurts like hell and is difficult and tiring especially with a very slow feeder like my baby (an hour each feed even at 4am is hard) ended up having to supplement with formula but she is a fine happy bubbly baby so don’t feel guilty Sleep, sleep sleep when you can! Get used to your mothers group ladies, you will grow to rely on each other. Routine is best! Dont use a dummy,baby doesnt know what one is unless you use one, my baby never had one, sleeps on a routine and self settles. Mother of Saskia 10months

Wrap them – even if they don’t like the traditional way, find another way. Find what works for you and your baby and DO IT…don’t listen to others opinions. Breastfeeding hurts for the first 6 weeks, even if you are doing it right. Stick it out, you won’t regret it. Mother of Hannah 20 months.

Cut baby’s finger nails while they are breastfeeding or sleeping to minimise the struggle. Mother of Thomas 3 months

Most medications cannot be used for babies with a snotty nose.  Saline drops and an aspirator, I use Fess brand, has been great for my daughter.  They work really well to clear her nose and allow her to feed more effectively.  Mother of Lucy 8 months.

Baby swim classes are great way to get exercise for mum.  My husband also liked to attend; it was great bonding time for him with our daughter.  We attended classes at the physio hydrotherapy pool, which was nice and warm for the baby.  Mother of Isabelle 5 months.

Subscribe to a parenting magazine.  They have great ideas and it is a nice treat to sit down and read once a month when they arrive.  A subscription makes a great gift for a pregnant friend.  I like Practical Parenting magazine.  Mother of Alex 4 years.

Above all, trust your instinct. Mother of Jason 22 months

You will never understand what it is to be a parent until you are one. And by then, it’s too late to change it! Mother of Poppy 3, Harry 21 months

Follow your own instincts and do what you think is right. Mother of Thomas 14 months.

Do what you feel is right for you and your baby and don’t listen to anyone else. Mother of Lukas 10 months

You know your baby best, so do what you think is best for your baby. You can’t spoil a baby. Mother of Isabelle 3, Blake 20 months.

Do what works best for you. Listen to advice (and everyone has different advice) find what works for you and stick to it. Mother of 3.

Do what works for you – routines don’t suit everyone if you need to hold your baby to sleep so be it – happy baby happy mum. Mother of Tuscany 4, Morrissey 3, Valen 6 months

Read the baby not the book! Every baby is different so yes read the books but listen to what your baby is trying to tell you. Put your baby to sleep when it is tired not when the book tells you too. Train your baby to go to sleep by itself. Mother of Blake 3, Chelsea 1y

Go with your instincts and don’t worry if someone tells u that u are doing something wrong or not right whatever works for you & baby at the time. Mother of Jorja 21 months.

Go with your instincts. Mother of Rose 3 y.

Writing things down… how long they fed for, how long they slept, which side you fed them on last… knowledge is power  ) And following a routine. Mother of Melayna 5y.

Listen to your instincts and try everything! Mother of Jake 15 months

Just when you think you are getting into a routine, it changes… and that’s okay. Mother of Annick 3y.

Just go with the flow as to what is best for you and child. Everyone has their own opinion. Seek advice but don’t take it all on board if it doesn’t feel right, then don’t do it. Mother of Haleemah 6y, Muneerah 4y, Jawaad and Khaleel 3 months.

It gets better!!! Having a hot water flask in the bedroom for making bottles overnight. Having a feeding routine. Mother of Kayla 4.5months.

Trust your instincts

Eating tips for children

Babies grow quickly in the first year of life, so they need plenty of energy (kilojoules) and nutrients. A child’s growth isn’t always steady and even, which means that appetite and hunger can be unpredictable.

The amounts of foods eaten by your baby and their interest in food may be a little different from day to day. This is normal and shouldn’t cause any concerns if your baby is growing well.

 

 

Introduce solids at about six months of age

 

Breast milk is an important food for babies until at least 12 months of age, or longer if the mum and baby desire. Infant formula is important until 12 months. By about six months of age, a baby’s iron stores are low and extra foods will be needed to maintain healthy growth and prevent nutritional problems such as iron deficiency. Start to introduce solids around six months of age – when your baby starts showing interest in food.

 

Clues that your baby is ready for solids

 

When your baby starts to need the nutrients that solid food can provide, there will be obvious signs they are ready to try solid foods. These include:

Good head control and able to sit up with support

Watching and leaning forwards when food is around

Reaching out to grab food or spoons to put in their mouth

Opening their mouth when food is offered.

 

Physical readiness for solids

 

Your baby’s organs and body grow and develop certain physical traits between four and six months. This indicates that their body is ready physically for solids. This maturing process includes:

Digestive system – digestive enzymes that help to digest food are developed.

Immune system – immune gut defence mechanism is fully developed.

Mouth and tongue – your baby is able to move food to the back of their mouth and swallow safely.

Head and neck – your baby is able to hold their head up; head control helps them to sit up straight and swallow.

Kidneys – your baby’s kidneys can now handle the increased load produced by solids.

 

Starting solids too early can cause problems

 

Hungry babies should be offered more breast or formula feeds until they are ready for solids. Some parents want to try solids early, believing this may help baby grow, sleep or settle better. Giving solids too early rarely helps these problems and may lead to other difficulties including:

Poor growth, if the solid food replaces breast milk or formula

Loose bowel actions or diarrhoea, if the baby cannot digest the food.

 

Don’t leave starting solids too late

 

It’s also important that starting solids is not left too late, as this may lead to problems including:

Poor growth due to low energy intake

Iron deficiency anaemia

Feeding problems, particularly if not started before about seven to nine months of age.

 

Signs that your baby is not interested

 

Signs that your baby is not interested or is full may include closing the mouth tightly and turning the head away when offered food. They may cry when the food is offered or may push the spoon away. If this happens at your first attempts to feed your baby, relax and try again in a few days. While most babies naturally spit food out when first given solids, they soon learn to accept foods if you continue.

 

Getting to know when your baby is hungry or full is important to having happy, relaxed and enjoyable mealtimes.

 

Tips for introducing solids

 

Be calm and relaxed when you start to feed your baby.

Make sure your child is sitting comfortably and is not too hungry.

Be patient. Your baby may only take a spoonful at first, but this will increase with time and practice.

Be prepared – all babies will make a mess as they learn to eat.

Stay with your child while eating to avoid accidents such as choking.

Try again in a day or so if your baby refuses the first time.

Wait several days before introducing a new food

Offer foods on a small, infant-sized spoon.

Suggested first foods

Your Newborn: Welcome to the World, Baby

You did it! And you’re more than happy to tell anyone who will listen exactly how you did it. How long your labor was, who was in the room, what baby’s APGAR score was, yada yada.

You spare no gory detail of your glorious birthing moment … and why should you?! What You’re Thinking: “Woohoo! I’m not pregnant anymore! No more heartburn! I have toes! My boobs are still big! And the bonus? I have a totally amazing new baby!”

 

Baby Milestones

 

  • Happy birthday, baby!
  • You’re so in love, you don’t even notice that baby’s face is all squished, swollen and bruised from his tight squeeze into the world (if you had a C-section, baby’ll look a bit less squished but may still be puffy). If youhave noticed, don’t worry. He’ll be looking picture-perfect in no time!
  • Ditto with that cone-shaped infant head. Just put on one of those cute little knit hospital caps to hide it. It’s all good!
  • Because he’s been curled up in your belly for the past nine months, your baby may still be huddled in the fetal position after he’s born. Your heart will melt watching his little grunts and stretches as he works out the kinks. Keeping him swaddled a good deal of the time will help him feel safe and secure.
  • Until baby’s umbilical cord falls off, you’ll have to give him a sponge bath rather than immersing him in a tub.
  • Some babies are born with a mop of hair while others are total cue balls. Whatever Junior has now, rest assured that come kindergarten, he’ll be sporting some locks. (And if he takes after his grandpa, he’ll lose them all by age 40.)
  • Mommy Milestones

 

Yay you! You’ve already accomplished the most amazing Mommy Milestone there is: You had a baby! So bask in your success, the new glow of motherhood and your ability to take a full breath again. And keep in mind that it’s totally normal to experience any or all of the following postpartum symptoms:

 

  • If you had a vaginal delivery, your perineum hurts like hooey and you can only sit comfortably on a donut or a Boppy. This too shall pass … we promise!
  • If you had a C-section, the incision at your midsection is killing you. C-section recovery takes a while, but don’t worry, it will get better.
  • No one told you that after giving birth you’d have the mother of all visits from Aunt Flo’s great Aunt, Mo’ Flo. Postpartum bleeding can be pretty intense and you may be wondering where all the blood is coming from!
  • You dread going to the bathroom because postpartum urination andbowel movements can feel like you’re peeing and pooping pins and needles (if you can even manage to poop, that is).
  • If you’re nursing, your boobs are serving up colostrum—that nutrient-rich pre-milk milk—and you and baby are hard at work figuring out this whole latch-on thing.
  • If you’re bottle feeding, you’re on the hunt for the perfect bottle (BPA-freeNatural nurserGlass, plastic, liners?) Oh, and you’re also hunting for the perfect nipple, and warming method, and feeding position!
  • Now that he’s here, you’ve got a million baby-care questions about:holding a babybreastfeeding, bottle feeding, baby clothesdiapers. We recommend finding a mom—even your mom!—who’s been there/done that to help you through these first few days. (Our message boards are a great place to find lots of moms who love to help!)

Home Front

 

Got everything you need to care for the newborn and the new mom (Hey, that’s you!)? If you didn’t quite get the “nesting” finished, it’s not too late for some last-minute preparing your home for baby. Our quick list will help you make sure the cupboards are stocked, the kid has clothes and your postpartum body is well taken care of. Read more …

Everything you ever wanted to know … and were just about to ask …

Do It: Stamp to Say Thank You:
OK, so you’re not thinking about sending those thank-you notes … yet. But when it’s time, look no further than baby’s munchable feet for inspiration!
Buy It: Baby-Gami
Help for swaddling-challenged moms and dads.
Share It: Baby Love
One mom gushes about how utterly ga-ga she is over her new baby. Share the love.
Discuss It: Chat with other new mamas and papas on our Birthday Groups.

Check Off Your Sleep Coaching Checklist

Before you officially begin the “sleep coaching” part of this boot camp, you need to make sure you’ve dotted your i’s and crossed your t’s so you can be well on your way to some serious zzzz’s.

 

  • Talk to your pediatrician and get the “green light” to start a sleep coaching program for your child. Have your doc rule out any underlying medical conditions that may be contributing to your child’s sleep problems like reflux, asthma, allergies, ear infections, sleep apnea, etc. Most sleep problems are behavioral, not medical, but better safe than sorry. Make sure medications, including over-the-counter remedies, aren’t disturbing her sleep.
  • Check with the doc to see if you can stop night feedings. If you’re feeding your baby during the night, ask your pediatrician if she thinks given the baby’s age, weight and health whether he needs any calories at night. Review with your pediatrician how much your child is eating during his waking 12 hours.
  • Make sure your kid’s bedroom is sleep friendly.
  • Review (or create if you haven’t yet!) a comforting bedtime routine.
  • Talk with your childcare providers. Work with babysitters and child care centers to develop consistent sleep rules and schedules. If your nanny can’t handle sleep coaching, particularly nap training, which can be hard, do your best to work around her and improvise where you have to. Ask that she focus on “filling the day time sleep tank” any way she can.
  • Continue keeping your sleep log and make sure that anyone else who puts your child to sleep jots their notes on there too.
  • After reviewing your preliminary log, look for your child’s naturalbedtime window. Regulate your child’s wake-up time between 6-7:30am. This is for kids over 5 months who are waking up at all different times; sometimes even sleeping until 9:30 which then throws off the entire next day and confuses their internal clocks.
  • Decide WHEN you’re going to begin sleep coaching your child. You want to start when you can expect about three weeks without any disruptions or major changes, including travel, moving, or having a new baby. If something unexpected occurs once you’re in the middle of the program, such as illness, do the best you can to stick with it. You can plateau in your chair position until your child is feeling better.

Once you’ve ticked off all these items, you’re ready to begin!
Are you ready to get started? What do you still need to do to be good to go? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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